The opposite sex, love, relationships and everything inbetween

If you are a normal person, without serious mental and emotional issues, like bankruptcy, family feuds and running away from the debt collectors, then THE OPPOSITE SEX is the dominate time consumer in your life... Ladies, you all are a miracle and absolute curse to men...well most men, GAY guys, this isn't the blog for you. Whether we are chasing just your ass or the more mature and advanced of us who seek companionship and love, we essentially want you as much as you want us. Notice I said WANT and not NEED. Needs are necessary to survival, your species just enhances it.
Firstly let’s address the issue of attraction. PLEASE do not call me shallow for saying its looks first, then the personality and understanding later. THE DIFFERENCE IS PREFERENCE, some guys prefer girls with skinny model like bodies, some like curves and a few like fat and wobbling asses. I just happen to like them with my version of hotness. Yeah so the girls I date are considered very hot by the majority of the population, the minority being the blind people who I can forgive. But as I said that’s my preference, just as some prefer LEVI to NIKE.

But don't think you hotties can just step up and think I’m going to give you a chance; it's certainly not that simple. I look for a complex personality, one that I can't figure out or categorize into one type of girl. Need a girl who’s smart, crazy, adventurous yet reasonable, thoughtful, caring and has a different and objective perception of the world.

Dating......is it overrated? Is it more of a hustle than it's worth or is it a matter of give and take in an effort to have a near fairytale relationship. Sadly dating is simple, and has a worse success rate than marriage, which in itself is at an unimpressive 48%!!!! Imagine giving your life to someone to have a less than 1 in 2 chance of the marriage surviving, isn't that a crappy situation to be in... Dating is even worse; it has a lesser chance of working out. Worse than the chance of getting tails on the flip of a coin.

I recently had a near 2 and a half year relationship fail, not because of the female species, but my own problems with trust and issues that deserve a book on their own. It was near perfect; she loved, or loves me with a passion that I could not begin to describe. Our relationship worked because of one essential thing, we were friends and not just a couple.

That's the problem; too many people go into relationships seeking the general status of having a boyfriend or a girlfriend. The need to just have someone to put on your arm and look good with in public and to satisfy the craving of physical touch. We all need to know we are wanted, and some crave that attention. That leads to a superficial relationship that doesn't last because past the physical part, you hardly know each other or what the other wants, you don't understand each other’s emotions. I mean they are guys who can't even tell after 10mins of speaking to a girl they have been with for 6 months whether or not she is on her period.....I'm not saying that’s a true measure of how well you know a person but it’s certainly a bit of an indicator of some sort of knowledge of your lady friend.

LOVE....mmh, now there's a certainly interesting topic. Who can define love, and how long does it take for one to be INLOVE??????????? What is the difference between being in love and loving someone????? To love is to regard something or someone with affection that is tender and true, this may arise from being family members, or being part of a nation or team.
To be in love , is to passionately, wholly and truly love and want to be with someone.....Thus there is a large difference between loving someone and being in love with someone

Personally if a person tells you they are in love with you after a month of knowing you, I think they are talking shit! Being in love is different from loving as I stated above. After a month are you willing to trust that someone can put you before themselves and would honestly exchange their life for yours?????The guy or girl hardly knows what your favourite colour is, and it's more than certain you have mentioned it more than once, and if they haven't asked that cliché question yet, then they truly aren't in love with you, and neither do they know what it means to be in love.
At that point, you proceed to kick them out, or walk out.....

Ladies, have you noticed how guys are always first to rush into saying they are 'in love' with you....in other words, they want to rip your panties off and pleasure themselves....NOTICE, once again, I said THEMSELVES.....This is the part of the blog were all my player friends curse me as the bane of their existence....forgive me hommies, for this is an unbiased blog, i'll pimp you guys out sometime next week. And to those going,' this nigga has gone gay,' showing emotion doesn't mean you aren't manly. Contrary to those that believe being emotional is gay and not manly, you are sorely mistaken chaps. CONTROL of your emotion determines how manly you are, not being devoid of all emotion!!.....That my unenlightened, egotistic, ball rolling, manly friends, is what being a true man is about. STOISISM, that is what I have just defined, the ability to control all emotion, a common practice amongst the Roman leaders who defined a man by his ability to remain dignified and calm in all situations. That does not mean they lacked emotion and became cold hearted, insensitive idiots. And as far as I’m concerned they were the manliest males to ever grace the earth. Except for their slight ego trip...

Back to the ladies, most guys say they are in love because they want you to think they care for no-one else but you. For you to feel so special that you can't help but gift them with the great glory of slipping between your legs. And why did I say those type of guys look to pleasure themselves? For those ladies who have had sex, if a guy makes no attempt at kissing you during foreplay or sex , or worse off after you have had sex, he doesn't care much about you. Secondly if a guy doesn't attempt to pleasure you as much as possible before going to full on sex, he obviously doesn't know that it takes longer for girls to reach climax than do guys, and certainly cares very little about you getting there. His in it for himself. So be careful about who you fall for girls, and certainly don't just split your legs to every idiot who says you are his world.

WOW, just realised I’ve drank more than 8 litres of dilution in two days, I drink more soft drinks than I do plain water. Then again who doesn't right? Sorry, had to get a snack, so my train of thought has eluded me. Who’s seen the new longer lunch bars, pretty neat how they've given us an extra quarter length, for about the same price....That just for now, I’m sure as soon as the promotion is over, it will be nearly twice the price of a normal bar. JOYUS day, the price of fuel is going to come down by another R1.33 that means it will be about 6.95 a litre... Hard to believe it was at 10.95 just two and a half months ago.
I'm from zim ok, not used to prices going down, just floating upwards at rocket rates.....back to the subject at hand...

So, can you trust someone fully, with your life, and always be 100% sure they will put your needs before their own? I think we should not fear loving, or falling in love. It's painful yes, and it hurts so much when it ends that you feel like ripping your own heart out to stop it from hurting...Trust me, I’ve been there. This quote does it for me; it simply states why we carry on putting ourselves out there to be hurt.

"Love is the flower of life, and blossoms unexpectedly and without law, and must be plucked where it is found, and enjoyed for the brief hour of its duration." - D. H. Lawrence

But do not be ignorant and just fall in love without knowing the person very well, the pain is only worth it when what you share ends untainted by hate and regret and you can look back and be glad to have gone out with the person regardless of the copious amount of pain that the end of the relationship brought.

The end of a relationship in which two people were truly in love does not mean that they stop loving each other, refer to my two definitions above...ok if you don't understand why, I’ll educate you. Simply put, time can fade passion but it cannot fade affection or admiration of certain characteristics that a person possesses. Thus if they have not changed dramatically, you will still love who they are even after years of being apart. Possibly some of the passion will never die and you will feel it whenever you see each other. It is accepting this and not trying to fight it that leads to truly moving on.

It is more than possible that you will feel more passionately about someone else without forgetting the other... so the goal is not to try and forget, but instead to accept the state of affairs.

That last paragraph is essentially what I've resolved to do with my ex-girlfriend instead of running off to another university or country as I contemplated before.

Good luck to all of you, may your hearts be full of joy and may you survive the torture and gift that is love, relationships and everything in between